The “NOT” is a short word but it symbolizes a lot of power and while it is easy to pronounce and to learn, to be repeated many times brings with it certain problems of conduct more small, want to repeat this action being guided by the parents enter into the denial stage. How to say no to children without seeming figures imposing when it is necessary to simply say “no”?
For the best results we can say that not without saying how? there are alternatives to delete do not from our vocabulary and put in practice positive options that will be of great help to our children.
How to say NO to children in a positive way
Constantly they listen to us to repeat phrases such as:
- Not rayes walls.
- Don't throw food on the floor.
- Do not fill up with mud.
- Don't upload to the...
- Don't go down the...
Surely reading this article you will come to your head countless sentences where we usually use the “not” and it is precisely this jigsaw of prayers in negative that will absorb our children and what will reflect in the same way, the key is to maintain a balance between yes and no, and even formulate sentences so that the children will understand it in the positive.
So, what can we do?
Clarify the rules of the home: although it may seem difficult to say no to our children because they are small and “not understand”, the ideal is to establish rules at home, in this way at the time of playing, jumping, going out, walking, having fun, they will know what they can do and what they should abstain.
Suggest other activities or options: if our children want to perform some activity, and at the moment we can not do it with them or supervise them, we can motivate him to do other things even while at home. There are many ways to have fun with our kids even when we can't get out.Read also: Portuguese expert on crimes makes outrageous claim about the night that Maddie disappeared
Explain what will happen if you violate the rules: children are very smart and they understand that a bad act will have consequences is a good alternative to “NO”.
Make a balance: to be repressive or too lenient will cause our children to adopt negative behaviors, so it is important to maintain a balance between the noes and the sies daily to avoid confusing the child or show us as hostile figures.
Provide positive alternatives: when we say no to the child what is favorable is to find a substitute to the action for which the child feels satisfied, that is to say, you can't play with the smartphone mom but we can look at your favorite movie and add popcorn.
Avoid situations cumbersome: there is a circumstance where the children want the things that other people have, example, if we take our son to a toy store to buy a gift for a friend, we need to explain before you leave the house that the object will be a gift, so we will avoid confrontations with them.
Be considered: if we are to stop any behavior on our baby, we avoid to impose or perform a scolding when subtly we can talk with our children and suggest other options, or give them another object.
The should NOT be used carefully: there will be moments in which mom or dad ought to say no, following samples own directives.
We should never assume that a child is too young to understand, try to conversarle and explain the reasons why something is prohibited it will be always a positive idea.
When we create rules in the house and in addition we have a balance between the yes and the no, we will probably have guys more happy, more confident and disciplined, in-between games and the exchange of ideas, we will achieve a harmonious atmosphere and respect in our home.Read also: Child of 5 years old suffer the worst pain of your life playing