In this article you will find:
- What they are concerned about the parents?
- Stages through which they pass to the parents after this news
When a couple makes the decision to have a child, it is inevitable that the parents generate expectations in everything that has to do with the latter's arrival. Trinidad Gallego, a psychologist, speaks to us about the expectations of the parents who are most concerned about.
What they are concerned about the parents?
Begin, unwittingly, to imagine how it's going to be your child, and how will be the future of it. The family begins to reorganize his life in many ways. But what happens when these parents are given the news that your child comes or is born with any disability?
All of these ideas, thoughts and dreams are paralyzed. The know this news is too strong for them, you tend to not believe and deny the situation, but as it is processing the disease, the parents begin to assume that your child will not be able to be a healthy child, will have to learn about the disability and how to provide the best to your child within their possibilities.
Stages through which they pass to the parents after this news
1.- First stage: impact
The news leaves them paralyzed, they fail to understand what is happening; they hear and hear not, see and not believe. Feel in a nightmare that is far from the reality.
2.- Second Stage: denial
As a defense mechanism appears the denial of reality: “this is not my son”, “this is not me it is happening to me”, “must be a mistake”, “you do not have what they say, they are wrong”, etc., parents are concentrated in the denial of the reality.
3.- Third stage: sadness or pain
At this stage parents are made aware of the reality and try to understand partially what's going on. It consolidates the image of loss of the baby of the ideal, of the dreams destroyed and the hope is absent.Read also: 22 pictures of creative baby making mischief you will get laughs and screams
The duration of this stage is variable, and depends in large part on how they have been resolved the previous stages. If the stage of denial is still present, the feelings of pain and anxiety will be hidden, disguised behind a cloak of serenity and understanding, almost over-exaggerated.
4.- Stage four: adaptation
When parents manage to get out of the previous stage, they enter into a process of adaptation, where they have managed to accept their own feelings and the condition of your child. Are interested to learn and know more in detail the type of disability of the baby.
In these moments it is of the utmost importance to the acceptance that the family environment has been expressed to this new member, and the support that the couple expresses to your spouse.
5.- Fifth stage: reorganization
The memory of the past, of the pain, anxiety, and impotence have been left behind. The parents have taken a different view. The baby has been integrated into the family, which has learned to accept his disabilities, and is committed to assisting you in your rehabilitation.
What is important, is that parents achieve realize that if they came up with this, it is because they have the strength to cope.